He then comes back into the room I am in, starts cussing and ranting about how he is so sick of seeing dog piss in the floor and that I can either get rid of the dog or he will do something about it, incinuating he will either get rid of it or kill it. He was even nice to my cat and the cat loved being on his lap. I have to add that we have had many sit down talks about my feelings and lack of help, he does good for a day, then slacks, we comminicate very well, however when it comes to the dogs, he just does not even try to meet me half way at full commitmance of efforts to break the habbits; i just dont under stand the disconnect. She has a female dog and I have a male dog. Not. Its making me nuts and I am really starting to resent him and not want to be with him. Also I would recommend getting a male dog, the female are too much and too aggressive and much more work IMO. I need to do something. I agree with Paul. We are talking about moving in together and everything else besides the dog is great, but Im thinking about not moving in with him because of the dog. Quite amusing when everyone here is acting as though human loyalty and monogamy is just something coded deeply into our genes. She said, He loves (emphasis) his dog! Love is like a bank account, you make deposits and withdrawals. She will grab food off the kitchen table while my kids are eating. dogs are unique and to get her incessant barking to a medium barely took a day. We recently found out I have antibodies in my blood that could be harmful to me and the baby, so I felt overwhelmed with stress. He said he was fine with my poodles before we got married, but now wants them gone. I absolutely adore children, do nit compare them to dogs. It would be one thing if he would actually take of it instead of just thinking it is a novelty and play toy. But I guess you are right, for the life of the dog the smell will remain. There are deep underlying issues for this type of thinking! They dont love like humans and its unhealthy for both dog and owner to be apart of that carp. Im a huge dog lover. They are the one who do not give the training.Dogs are great animals . I started dating a girl and she had one bulldog. Theres no excuse for peeing in the floor. Subscribe me to the GoodTherapy.org public newsletter. He ran and she chased him. He's allowed to have a dog. I dont want to come home to a house that is pissed and pooped and smells worse like a dog shelther and where I will have to be responsible for cleaning. It is a very unhealthy bond. i just cannot see how i will be happy if we all live together. Dont obsess or turn them into humans and call them the babies. My wife and I have had this dog for about a month now. I had pets all my life. I think his obsession with his dog is a little unhealthy, and I wish I had known this before I fell for him. If she didnt get her way, shed start washing her private area for a very, very, long time. Let me get to it. My sister has five dogs same thing. I am greatful that many people think like myself and know that animals are not people. 138 Sponsored by Spokeo Are you worried that your partner is talking to someone? Husband has been violent 2x in the 13 years and now again recently. Trying to force me into doing these things with threats and a bunch of sh*t talking to me. I think a lot of the fanaticism has gone so deep now because a lot of the people cant deal with other people or person on their terms. This is getting out of control & is affecting our intamacy & having a healty happy relationship. He wants him to be an outside dog when we get a house but I cant stand the idea. I have even volunteered as a charity dog walker to try and alleviate the sadness I feel, but its simply not the same. In my whole life I have met 2 or 3 people who are pet owners (very responsible ) but do not let the pets on furniture and can distinguish between a person and a pet. Understood. the dog sleeps indoors she has her own bed but will constantly climb on our bed at night. I have wondered if Im going to keep the relationship. When I came home from the grocery store, he would already be stealing food from the grocery bags or things out of my purse! So, here they are Confine the dog to one area. They lack human thought and cognitive ability but she trained them to misbehave by rewarding bad behavior. My dog is 3 years old now and his is 2. Perhaps in many cases it is going to be easier to blame the pet than for him just to come right out and say that it is really you that is bugging him. Mans worst friend: Average dog causes 2,000 family arguments in its lifetime. Not to mention the hair. Once we moved her out of there, his dog began barking all night so we had to fix a pen in the garage for him (he still barks ALL night). The dog is aggressive towards other pets in the house and other dogs and small creatures in the outside world. But he would rub the dogs back abd love on her back before he evens thinks of me. she also feeds them constantly from the table that encourages this bad behaviour. I was told by my friend today (he is a dog owner by the way), that he went with his wife to a restaurant in town and was eating on the patio. It is unfortunate that so many people treat their dogs like humans instead of the animals they are. He is basically the only company I have, he is a super nice, smart, beautiful cat. It is not the worst of chihuahuas, but it is aggressive at times and VERY loudthe shrieking barking could wake the dead. His dog doesnt come when he calls her, wants to kill every small dog she sees, barks constantly when left alone in his truck and barks at people walking by my dog has none of these habits but my boyfriend insists his dog is normal wherein mine is not. Did I mention that he lays in his litter box full of pee & poop???!!!!!! The constant cleaning continues but thats all we can do. Human loyalty isnt malleable, but it is breakable. Here its totally different.here i have rules,my dog is not allowed in etc etcim lost.what am i supposed to do? My Australian shepherd is just a puppy and has done some destructive chewing, which he was properly punished for, but he didnt start this habit until I met my boyfriend. That told a lot. And this is how I feel about my boyfriends pets. Or, as suggested, get a king sized bed that can accommodate you both and the fur baby. We tried leaving him outside and he destroyed screens plants and the whole 9. My son is almost 4, he can hardly enjoy the dog because the dog is probably 10 years old and hasnt had a lot of interaction with children. If you cant accept that sort of all-encompassing commitment then dont get a dog. Sometimes I got short breathed because of all the dog hair that is flying through the air and I cant sleep because of all the movements on the bed and the noises. Responsibility I believe is key. I am so totally depressed. Shame on your husband and you if you let him do this. I need at least one room for me that I wont have to worry about the fur. IMO dogs are pack animals and do better in family situations anyway, so being forced into a solitary situation with one single person creates a LOT of anxiety and behavior problems (aka, like your girlfriends dog). Its time for you to put your foot down with you bf. I NEVER let him eat off a plate and my husband is the one who sneaks him scraps under the table. Could it be that it is really not as bad as you describe since you are still living there with him and his pets? Over time, she grew to to love the dog, despite its timid behaviors. I have never felt so upset towards an animal. This dog is horrible and is ruining my life. Take the high road and start showing a little more love all around. If he is not begging to be played with, he is begging to be petted or when we eat, he hovers over my girfriends plate waiting for some scraps she gives him. Dogs are happiest in a structured environment where they know who the leader is and arent in a constant state of unrest due to rank confusion. You still need to feed them and walk them before youre able to take care of your own needs. I mean, it is that too but it isnt. He eats my dogs food and makes sure she doesnt eat or get any water. He would stop talking to me just to pick her up because she always wants him attention specially when he talks, gets close or even awknowledge me. Thanks. The owners (in this case it s your boyfriends, girlfriends ) do not know how to train a dog ! He has done somethings like give the dog his own room (which I still believe he belongs outside), because he cant walk around the house and spread his dander everywhere that Im allergic to. Her hair gets e v e r y w h e r e. At night we are forced to put her in the kitchen because she crawls up on the couch while we are sleeping, and its obvious because the couch is covered in fur. Omg,I can soooooooo relate- except that my SO has cats instead of a dog. His dog gets sick also, it throws up every now & then. I feel like thats sort of evil and that she lied about who she was. It is something I dont believe in and it breaks my heart to even consider. How on earth was I supposed to know that someone was going to treat their dog like an infantile god-being? We love our dog, but we do NOT treat him like a human child because hes not one. heaven forbid you eat something !! This exactly my issue.. love dogs and have had them but I believe in a well training obedient happy dog not one like you mentioned.. and when them not willing to try to fix.. and not understand.. that is challenge.. getting the understanding and I feel quilty because most family and friends dont like the dog..and it isnt here fault it is his creation of her.. she is very sweet and I have lots of very expensive and nice things that are not easily replaceable not big on material things but they are family heirlooms and gifts.. plus I get easily nauseated by smell of dog.. Im trying to not be part of the dislike club.. If you cant/wont, please take the time to find him a good home or take him to a rescue that will. Ive been in a relationship with a dog nut and you get so frustrated because they just dont get it and never will. Pulls stuff off of counters, poops, pees, tears up the carpet has eaten door jams, broke through doors etc. I also have the same issue with my cat! I visit friends with cats, but its not the same. That is how you hate a significant others dog. According to her he also gets, cold all the time, so he wants to go under the covers. i would say NAH. The cat now will not bury her poop and if he doesnt clean it up right away her next poop is on the floor, anywhere in the house. Hitting an animal is never acceptable a puppy is just like a baby it needs love and attenion he learns from play just like children. It wont change believe me. Next, I wanted another boxer. I cant watch her 24/7 to keep her from going upstairs to the kids room and getting their stuff or stealing food. Dogs are a species of animal. He tells me off for that apparently, it is not in his nature to bite and he has been trained since a puppy for anyone to touch him during mealtime. It just feels that my feelings are brushed off the table and the dogs are priority number 1, while Im his wife. I had to get rid of my dog (he was large but very well mannered) and my cat (i had for 7 years ) it was a VERY hard goodbye BUT luckily my mom took them in for me knowing that it was hard and knew she could give them the home and care i would want for them. I dont want to smell like dog and I dont want my furniture, sheets, or anything else to smell like dog. for 4 years. If you really want to control this situation, there are a few things you need to be aware of. I wonder if there is a certain type of individual that gets these beasts they call dogs? YES! I wanted to give people here a here a different outlook about pets, Chihuahuas and perhaps love itself. I just dont know what to do anymore. The dog is bored. I want to find the dog a new home while my boyfriend is in love with the dog and wants to keep her even though hes at work all day and only sees her at night for a couple hours. I tell him I cant train her, how I dont have the patience to do it, or the tolerance. So he has the entire morning to do this, but he "struggles to wake up". I dont understand why people think dogs should matter more than human lifes. Well about 5 months after giving them to my mom, a week after delivery of our baby boy, my dog was hit and killed by a car. He has arthritis really bad where you can see he is in discomfort and even when he drinks or eats, he cant stand up perfectly straight. Weve had him for 6 years now and the experience has been mostly positive. Regards. Every time we think she is taking a step forward, she takes 10 steps back. Im sick to death of dealing with this dog and am even growing resentment to my husband. (unless you count liking to lick me a bad habit) She LOVES to hike in the arroyos and hills, is very friendly and outgoing, plays games w me like fetch and keep away and plays with her squeakiesshe never chews cords like the previous ownets said and she did once w me . Throughout my adulthood, I have owned many dogs and cats. He wants her on the couch all the time even though she is always peeing on herself and dirty. Hardly grooms it, it reeks like urine and heavy dog odor most the time, its a poodle mix so requires hair cuts quite regularly which doesnt happen. My best friend has a dog; she claims shes closer to the dog than she is to her husband because the dog follows her everywhere she goes. No go. These are lazy pet owners who just dont want to take the time to train/socialize their animals. Send your dog away to live in utter dog pack madness where she will regress or train her properly and stop,acting like shes a human with human feelings! Our dog is a little sensitive to certain noises and he probably gets a little bored. But, gradually, in no time, your dog will, On a beautiful sunny morning, you and your pooch go for a walk outside your house. Such a well behaved dog. I did a huge mistake by overlooking a huge red flag, but I dont regret adopting the cat. I think if your boyfriend isnt willing to work with your feelings and change some of his dogs behaviors (and his own), then maybe you wont ever truly have the loving relationship you deserve. He thinks his dog is just fine. Except hes getting attacked he will defend himself. Hes a neat freak and Ive got a miniature husky mix who sheds a lot. Hes attached himself to this dog to the point were now separated. But he cant sit on the porch and stare inside. Hello, again! If that werent the case, I would never ask him to do anything that he would struggle with or resent, and nor would I allow anyone to expect me to change big aspects of my lifestyle either. As everyone agrees, this small nip never gonna draw blood. I read about training and raw food and Chihuahuas themselves. He claims that my dog (to whom I am VERY attached and mutually so) wishes (he) was dead so that dog could have me all to himself and no one else. It is annoying to the point of ruining my mood, even if it does only last a few minutes! Of course we spoiled the crud out of them too. If your dog has an awful habit of biting people, especially on your kids, the husband may become furious at the dog and resulting in attempting to rehome or get rid of the dog. Im at a loss. Its to the point where if he does not get rid of her room, I am going to leave him. Some of them also found it odd that, as a dog owner, Im perfectly fine with the fact that some people dont like dogs. Two weeks ago the bomb dropped. Its better to vacuum the entire house at least once a week. You may find that one of you is simply less in love with your pets than the other. I really do hate this dog now. That wont change Kelly. Yeah plenty of men like well behaved dogs that arent trained by women who worship the dog like ot walks on water. She was removed. I have a pintrest board dedicated to shih tzus and golden doodles. So looks like theres lots of people in my position,. Your husband is a cruel bully and should not own a dog. Your dog being in the kitchen is worth more to you than a human relationship? He says I should be happy with the one dog I have now, and where i appreciate him allowing the dog to live with us, I cannot shake the feeling of being incomplete. She adopted a dog (3 years old) after two years and we were both excited (Keep in mind, I didnt really have any say in getting the dog or not. The dogs get along great together too. Dear, reading your post made me so sad. We will be gating off portions of the home where she cannot enter because the hair and smell is just too plentiful. Thank you guys for your advice; really appreciate it and it comforts me knowing Im not alone. Im not a person who is fond of energetic animals in general though, which is why I prefer the quiet calmness of cats. The same paws they use to trample on s*** and p*** are the same paws they walk all over your bed with. Omg, I hate that. The dog would nip at the husband whenever he tried to get near his wife to show her affection. The duvet is covered with hair and dirt. I actually wanted to leave in the very beginning, but tried to make it work. Consult a veterinarian: Sometimes, this issue may occur due to both physical and phycological issues. Help. Because they are animals. She sheds 24/7 and no this is not an exaggeration. The good majority of comments from women are posted out of emotion rather than from a rational point of view. I dont even know where to start. How do you get through having to say we had to end a relationship over a dog? A poorly trained dog or aggressive cat is frustrating to everyone, but the person who brought the pet into the relationship is sometimes more sympathetic toand defensive aboutthe pet. I feel he doesnt care. I ended up caring for Pheobe for 8 years before she died. In the end, it didnt work and we broke up recently. They will complain and cry at first but you cannot give in. Otherwise, the dog was great. Now despite my efforts, the dog is destroying my garden, ripping out my roses especially. I put him a doggie bed beside of ours and he slept there. He just puts the bulldog on a pedestal and it causes lots of issues and arguments. My boyfriend adopted his dog at over a year old so has never dealt with a puppy, his dog completely disrespects me and wont listen to me at all. Where am I supposed to go to? Dog nuts just dont get it. Anytime you have anything to eat or drink shes RIGHT THERE. I actually had to clean it out of the DVD player the other day. The first nights, he didnt want me to sleep with him, because he didnt want his dogs to be disturbed. I tried to explain the logics behind this big problem but Im just told he cant refuse or say no because it was a gift. She developed a grade 5 heart murmur and her quality of life worsened. I am and have always been a very clean individual. Sometimes I think Americans have went insane. I hope it hoovers up something toxic very soon. We have often talked about moving to the country; I would say how much Id love to get a dog and train it, go on walks with it, etc. Improving my relationship and building it is already work so I do not need a dog who will not listen and act out. Shes training them to bark because they bark and get their way!!! Ive put tarp down in the room as he previously went poop on the floor there. I actually think its very gross to have dogs in the bed, there was even black stuff on the pillow from the dog laying on the pillow, and even drips of pee and they never get showered or anything. Each has a place for love in your life one animal one human..HELLO! Hes had this dog for six years prior to me, so shes been with him for a long time. Make sure you use a metal gate. Its good that there are normal dog owners like you. Dog lovers can be incredibly obnoxious and many dont hesitate to passively aggressively force others family members of even total strangers to put up with their child, as they refer to the animals. I realize that we cant always predict how animals are going to act but this seems like yet another person who just didnt take the time to properly train/socialize her dog. I would rather see the dog go to another home. I also find myself sleeping alone every night while the dog sleeps with him because if she sleeps in a kennel she whines because she has a severe case of separation anxiety from him. How can your boyfriend of 3 years actually say go on the couch so his DOG can sleep next to you? I have been thru this many many times and want to tell you dont give in. Also, youre flat out insulting Infertile folks whose only babies could ever be their fur babies and for people who have only ever been truly loved by them aside from their human counterparts. Later, when you are both ready and in agreement, you could develop a plan (with clear conditions) to re-introduce the dogs. If I say something to him about how he is acting Im the enemy. Hello Lex, I married my husband almost 2 years ago. Hes known for being fun, kind, intelligent, and humane. What pisses me off greatly is, his dog has nipped my kids and I have calmy told my kids not too play rough etc. He does not bathe the dog for months and expect me to watch TV with a dog that stinks. Our carpets smelled fresh and the general filth level in our home dramatically decreased. Were up to 6 medium to large holes in the carpet. 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